How can one advertise something of which he is not happy and satisfied 100%? Some people think that it’s only a few baptised people who are not happy with the church or else people who have lost their faith, or other people who are always grumbling!! Early-stage religion is more about belonging and believing than about transformation. When belonging and believing are the primary concerns, people don’t see their need for growth, healing, or basic spiritual curiosity. Once we let the group substitute for an inner life or our own faith journey, all we need to do is “attend.” For several centuries, church has been more a matter of attendance at a service than an observably different lifestyle. Membership requirements and penalties predominated, not the change-your-life message that Jesus so clearly preached. Membership questions lead to endless arguments about who is in and who is out, who is right and who is wrong, who is worthy of our God, and who is not. Such distinctions appeal to our ego and its need to feel worthy and superior and to be part of a group that defines itself by exclusion. The church ends up a gated country club, giving people a false sense of superiority. This is why Jesus walks to those on the edges: the handicapped, the sinners, the excluded ones.

Well, read on….Priests are not happy at all! They are at odds with the administration of the Catholic church!

Priests grumble too!

Another priest comes in the open and speaks openly about a relationship lasting many years…..It’s not only him but there are others who for obvious reasons are never going to speak in public about their relationship with a woman! How about a survey just to get an idea about how many priests have clandestine relationships with women?

Many priests who support mandatory celibacy have their own hidden interests at heart. They are benefiting directly from the “men only” culture set up by celibacy. Mandatory celibacy maintains a thin veil of “purity” that creates a safe and attractive haven for gay men. Since priests don’t have to publicly marry a woman and they get to live in close with other men, the priesthood has become a safe haven for gay men seeking love and a respected position in society. This reality has created a gay-straight form of sexual politics in the priesthood. It has driven out most of the straight priests who have been scandalised by this hidden culture and left the institutional priesthood out of a sense of integrity. Other straight priests like Father Manning have stayed and found female companionship to match the many gay relationships priests have with other priests and men outside the Church’s walls. Mandatory celibacy is ruining the Church because of the secrecy and double lives it creates in the priesthood. This secrecy and the resultant blackmail and extortion it creates have fueled the sex abuse crisis and resultant cover-ups we have witnessed so publicly over the past ten years.

Priest in a relationship

Celibacy was not a clerical requirement in the early church — in fact, many popes were married during Christianity’s first few hundred years. But as Catholicism became more affixed to the Roman Empire, the church fathers fell increasingly under the influence of Stoicism and its demonization of sex, an attitude the medieval church codified. Today the church would argue that celibacy isn’t about demonizing sex but rather nobly sacrificing it as part of being alter Christus, or “another Christ.”

I and most other Catholics can respect that — if it’s a priest’s choice. Unfortunately, we’re also aware that mandatory celibacy has led to an unnecessary isolation of our clergy — and, in turn, to the harmful sense of clerical superiority we’ve seen so much of during the abuse crisis. Click on Time’s magazine.

More catholics are leaving the church. Are those in authority aware of all this? Are they doing something? Or are they simply discarding the facts just by saying…well they don’t belong to the church? Some may not come to church any more but some others are trying to find a way to present a true church. It’s the same thing that married priests are doing in the church today. They meet several people who are at odds with the church for several reasons. They bring them together and celebrate together whilst they continue their search for God’s calling in their lives.

A fresh church coming from its roots