Tag Archive: Anglicans

When we were young we were submitted to various teachings. Most of the time, we read books. We tried to assimilate as much as we could. Then years passed by and somehow we re-connected to what teachers/parents/guardians had told us. Most probably what we’ve been thought was good. Yet in real life it seems that it is a different kind of fish. It’s what we call the gap between the theory and real life!

We were thought to look up to priests for friendship, counselling, ideas etc…Obviously in theory everything is in order. Yet each every human being is formed not only through teaching, but through personal experience, chemicals present in his genes etc…All this will make it highly improbable to foretell his future life as each person has a different outcome, which is based on millions of variables.

The first step is when one is asking for help. It brings the baptised person close to a priest. This is the work of the priest after all! But what happens when most of the priests feel all alone, neglected, alienated, disappointed and put aside? A normal kind of friendship (obviously there is nothing wrong), could be a tempting one for the priest. Instead of listening and comforting the person, the priest fulfils his needs for friendship, attention, love etc…within the counselling sessions. A counsellor has to listen to the client and not vice-versa, at least he can’t talk for a long period of time. The fact that the priest starts talking about his life means automatically that the sessions are taking a different path!

On the part of the person who is seeking the priest’s help, things start moving differently when they view the priest not as a counsellor but as the one who is fulfilling their dream of the ideal man! Obviously when one meets another person for a few hours weekly, it’s very easy to idolise that person! Remember that most people as viewed at work, might seem to be the ideal person. It’s when one lives with the person that one sees the complete picture! Yet, when one is hungry for love, recognition, attention and self affirmation, all other things will occupy a less important place in their lives! They just want to cling to somebody no matter what! It could be that we’re living in anonymous cities (Western part of the world), hence we desperately need friends!

We’ve been saying for quite some time now that priests who explain the word of God every Sunday (plus maybe other public meetings), are practically revealing their inner self to the general public. He is the one who speaks about a lot of values where no one speaks anymore (or at least not that often!). Speaking about such values will put more fire on a woman’s heart who is burning with desire to have a loving partner.

The priest in most cases, has all the time of the world to meet, listen and talk with parishioners. He is the one who makes his own timetable hence, he is easily available! The priest has no one to report to for his day to day running. Hence he can postpone last minute meetings without giving any real reason or hiding behind superficial reasons!

We don’t wish to give the message that it’s impossible, yet in the present circumstances, it’s getting more difficult to be a good friend to a priest. When a person is not complete (in many senses), it could lead to trouble, whether he is a priest, bishop, Pope, woman etc…In mathematics they used to teach us that a minus ( – ) with a minus ( – ), make a plus!

Our wish to have married priests will help the church to have a better system where priests are living in a relationship which will help them understand better the need for attention, love, affirmation etc…We’re not saying that it’s foolproof. There is nothing perfect. Yet on the human side of the argument, it will help them to be better prepared to work in today’s church.

It was unthinkable until some years ago to mention marital love and priesthood! Everybody was of the opinion that the Vatican won’t change celibacy. Most people lost their faith. Yet the Holy Spirit gives us his unique surprises. More and more anglican priests are becoming Roman Catholics and are coming inside the church together with their wives!! See below….

The Vatican has erected since January 1st of last year, a personal ordinariate
(similar to a diocese) in the territory of the United States Conference of
Catholic Bishops for the ministers and the faithful Anglican converts to the
Catholic Church. The married priests will be able to get together en masse. The
Vatican has stressed that this condition of married priests is only one
exception (like other similar dispensations made in the past by the Vatican)
and in no way a permanent condition of the priesthood.

However, the Roman Catholic Church is willing to get back into his house
the highest number of married priests.
Numbers not seen in previous years to 1123, when the
First Lateran Council in canon 21, forbade the marriage of

History about the exclusion of the wife of the priest.

The church is not decisively enacted legislation on priestly celibacy
mandatory until the 11th century reform movement. At that point, the main
purpose of priestly celibacy was to clearly distinguish and separate the
priests from the laity, and to elevate the status of the clergy. In this scheme,
the mere presence of the priest’s wife confused this goal, and then the
wife of the priest aroused suspicion, and often the aversion of many
parishioners and clergy. We can understand such sentiments raise today?

Since the time of the First Lateran Council, the wife of the priest had
become a symbol of lust and contamination. The reason was related to the
pseudo pure theology of consecration during the mass. The priest, who
consecrated the Body and Blood of Christ was to be uncontaminated as not to
contaminate the Eucharist

The priest’s wife was an obvious danger. His lust, the second thesis of
Peter Damian (made a saint, bishop and doctor of the church),
who lived in the 11th century, threatening the effectiveness
of the consecration. He chastised the wives of priests as “vipers that
furious animated by impatient ardor of lust behead Christ, the head of the
priests,” with their love. He wrote about women married to priests as:
“impious tigers, harpies, fierce snakes, charmers of priests, the devil, the
choice morsels Devil, viruses of the mind, soul swords, poison
companions, material of sin, the death, hoopoes, barn owl, night owls, wolves,

According to historian Dyan Elliott, the wives of
priests were perceived as rapers of the artal, a desecration not only the
priest but also the whole Christian community.

The family of the priest was also seen as a threat to the stability of the
church. Her children were a threat to the laity, who feared that any
their ordination to holy orders could be absorbed into the hands of the
descendants of the priest to create a rival clerical dynasty. A celibate priest
also would provide substantial donations from high aristocracy. In
addition, the wife of the priest has often been accused, along with her children,
to squander the resources of the church with the extravagance and frivolity.
Pope Leo IX tried to remedy this problem in the 11th century, decreeing
that the wives and children of priests were to work in his residence at the
Lateran Palace in Rome.

We invite the wives of priests (former Anglicans) to start
a real dialogue on the abolition of priestly celibacy, or
a claim that it might be optional.

It would be encouraging if we start a true and sincere discussion about sex and marriage in the Catholic Church.

Let’s not lose more priests because they encounter love in their lives! We’ve been saying for many times that when a priest falls in love he would see the world, God, church and all in a new perspective. A woman walking besides a priest makes him richer and more mature in his spiritual life. Now contrary to what the article says, the priest cannot abandon priesthood especially when he reads the Holy Bible and finds out that most of the apostles were married !!! The church for obvious reasons wants him just to stay quiet and shut up but we urge him to continue exercising priesthood in the footsteps of the apostles and the Anglican ones who are exercising priesthood even though they are married!! It won’t be unfair but biblical and apostolic to work as a married catholic priest!!

Rev Hearne (he is always going to be a Rev because priesthood is forever!!) is praising celibacy. Well in principle we are in favour of optional celibacy as forced celibacy is creating monsters. Does he know about them? Does he know how many go on expensive holidays? How many are drunk? How many wear expensive clothes and other expensive items in their homes? How many have sex with boys, women etc….??

Finally we are so happy that there is going to be the second Maltese Cardinal of the Catholic Church in history. We won’t expect a revolution from a man who is 86 years old. Yet as he studies the early history of the church, maybe he would help others in understanding the biblical priesthood!

Homily {in Maltese}