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The present battle regarding married priests is facing a normal challenge throughout the world. In what sense is it normal? Let’s dig deeper to see what it entails.

First and foremost it’s a battle of media. Who shouts louder? Who gets the most coverage? It is apparent that some newspapers are reporting it as though there is going to be a great change. Normally when such announcements are made there is an immediate response of resistance. Change? Why? In what sense? In fact many of the so called conservative media outlets are saying that the changes proposed by Pope Francis are going to damage the church. It’s going to disconnect from its roots!!

Unfortunately some of the media have short memory or loss of memory! Because married priest were present in the beginning of the church and they have been so for the first thousand years of the Catholic church! So is it truly a change? Or is it going back to the roots? It’s very important in ecclesial narrative that we are not actually inventing the wheel but it’s rather removing what’s clogging the wheel! All things and traditions which built up during the centuries which actually are harming the church! This is an important way to win back some of the so called conservatives members of the church.

Another move would be to cancel once and for all the idea that a married priest works less for the good of the church. How about mentioning the present married priests and how they can use time management wisely? There are so many examples to be picked up by the media! Can we help the media?

Another case is that of the many people who have left the Catholic Church but they truly believe that married priests are truly a magnificent asset for the church today. What are they saying about the advantages of having back married priests? Can we reach out to them to hear their honest thinking and opinions?

Consequently this would lead to the greatest change: our view of sexuality. Sexuality might make them feel human and vulnerable. Is our church ready to make a complete change over when it comes to sex? It’s been the joke of the century that most celibate priests dictate what happens between the sheets of the greater percentage of married people in the church!! Shall we continue this living lie? This is one of the areas that is helping people decide to leave and walk on its own. Sexuality is the common link which we might use in order to have people back in the church, if we are truly human and spiritual at the same time!

Deep deep down there is a hidden hatred against women! Although many centuries have passed since the incredible middle ages, yet the effects are still felt. The fact that the church has been dominated by male thoughts for this long, signals the writing on the wall. We allowed this to happen when practically in most families it’s the woman who is in charge for the spiritual well-being of the off-springs! Are the male ones afraid that if we’ll introduce married priests, indirectly, women will be governing the church? It has been proven that it’s more difficult for a celibate priest to say no to a higher authority then a married one…

Another hidden asset in the recent Amazon synod [meeting], was that the Pope gave the voice to the local people who without hesitation pointed out the many multinational companies who are offering some kind of service in exchange of their invaluable piece of land. Does this mean a new change in the Catholic church in how it deals with challenges and how to formulate new teachings? Did the media measure such effects on the world today? Or is some media using the conservatives’ ideas in order to try to break down Pope Francis from protecting the poor and the people without a voice? All in all, all media, what is their hidden agenda? In other words, when we are hearing the media, who pays the journalist who is in front of camera, or teh journalist who is inside a newspaper’s building? The same goes for the blogger or the commentator who floods the internet with his/her comments.

The pill problem or challenge is not just a drop in an ocean but it’s an everyday challenge for the faithful who wish to live the gospel in their daily lives. Do you obey the bishops or do you just go on your own? In another words, do you avoid pregnancy or do you leave it in God’s hands, regardless of the number of children you already have?  Regarding the pill, there are at least 82 % of Catholics who in daily life disregard what the bishops or the Pope say, and practice birth control classified as ‘artificial’ by church’s documents. It is a growing attitude by many Catholics that they feel as adults, consequently they can take their own decisions.

It is possible to repress change temporarily — to slow change, to resist change, to deny change — but it is impossible to stop a change whose time has come. It is impossible to ignore change once it has begun to well up through the cracks in the cement of a society, however rigid the barriers to it.

Repressed, people will resist. Ignored, people will remove themselves from an arthritic society. Unheard and unheeded, blocked and obstructed, the seed of a new idea simply grows like ground pine until the ideas break out everywhere and evolution that could have been handled by a process of peaceful reform gives way to unmanageable revolution. Ask the King and Queen of France.

In France, some years ago there was the experiment of the working priest. It was a practical way in order to connect the priest with the common people. We as married priests work NOT in a parish. We have to earn our salary by conducting normal jobs like all other human beings. We have to support our families. There are no short cuts. We cannot just go to the parish and ask for money. But another important fact is that like the worker priests, we feel at odds with the Catholic church. Something which normal obeying Catholics find it difficult to understand. But when one befriends such a priest, they realise the frustrations of some of the priests in order to update the church. It’s not just one thing or one issue but many others. All could be grouped together because some priests and some bishops are living in an ivory tower and cannot feel what the common people are saying. The priest who left the comfort of the parish to go and live normally, faces real life and real challenges like all normal people. He is in a position to show the way to all who left the church and feel lonely (in a spiritual way).

We wish to announce this Christmas, a special welcome to all those who feel left out of the church for various moral or ‘sinful’ reasons. We feel that our over emphasis on sexual relationships has to end. We feel that no sin could be discriminated against. We cannot just point to one or two sins and ignore the big picture.  We are all sinful in God’s eyes. The reason God wanted his church is NOT to condemn but rather to call and welcome the sick people. If as a church we act differently, then we would be betraying His call.

In this sense we feel that married priesthood is important in the reformation of the Catholic Church because it brings the priest face to face with the normal life of today. Consequently there would be other changes. But we are hopeful, as said in one of the quoted articles, that change is inevitable. The Holy Spirit has His own way of bringing about what is classified as impossible change in the Catholic Church.

We are receiving several emails from women who love a non-married priest. On general terms we wish to give some advice. Just read this article in order to understand what’s going on.