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When we were young we were submitted to various teachings. Most of the time, we read books. We tried to assimilate as much as we could. Then years passed by and somehow we re-connected to what teachers/parents/guardians had told us. Most probably what we’ve been thought was good. Yet in real life it seems that it is a different kind of fish. It’s what we call the gap between the theory and real life!

We were thought to look up to priests for friendship, counselling, ideas etc…Obviously in theory everything is in order. Yet each every human being is formed not only through teaching, but through personal experience, chemicals present in his genes etc…All this will make it highly improbable to foretell his future life as each person has a different outcome, which is based on millions of variables.

The first step is when one is asking for help. It brings the baptised person close to a priest. This is the work of the priest after all! But what happens when most of the priests feel all alone, neglected, alienated, disappointed and put aside? A normal kind of friendship (obviously there is nothing wrong), could be a tempting one for the priest. Instead of listening and comforting the person, the priest fulfils his needs for friendship, attention, love etc…within the counselling sessions. A counsellor has to listen to the client and not vice-versa, at least he can’t talk for a long period of time. The fact that the priest starts talking about his life means automatically that the sessions are taking a different path!

On the part of the person who is seeking the priest’s help, things start moving differently when they view the priest not as a counsellor but as the one who is fulfilling their dream of the ideal man! Obviously when one meets another person for a few hours weekly, it’s very easy to idolise that person! Remember that most people as viewed at work, might seem to be the ideal person. It’s when one lives with the person that one sees the complete picture! Yet, when one is hungry for love, recognition, attention and self affirmation, all other things will occupy a less important place in their lives! They just want to cling to somebody no matter what! It could be that we’re living in anonymous cities (Western part of the world), hence we desperately need friends!

We’ve been saying for quite some time now that priests who explain the word of God every Sunday (plus maybe other public meetings), are practically revealing their inner self to the general public. He is the one who speaks about a lot of values where no one speaks anymore (or at least not that often!). Speaking about such values will put more fire on a woman’s heart who is burning with desire to have a loving partner.

The priest in most cases, has all the time of the world to meet, listen and talk with parishioners. He is the one who makes his own timetable hence, he is easily available! The priest has no one to report to for his day to day running. Hence he can postpone last minute meetings without giving any real reason or hiding behind superficial reasons!

We don’t wish to give the message that it’s impossible, yet in the present circumstances, it’s getting more difficult to be a good friend to a priest. When a person is not complete (in many senses), it could lead to trouble, whether he is a priest, bishop, Pope, woman etc…In mathematics they used to teach us that a minus ( – ) with a minus ( – ), make a plus!

Our wish to have married priests will help the church to have a better system where priests are living in a relationship which will help them understand better the need for attention, love, affirmation etc…We’re not saying that it’s foolproof. There is nothing perfect. Yet on the human side of the argument, it will help them to be better prepared to work in today’s church.

The pill problem or challenge is not just a drop in an ocean but it’s an everyday challenge for the faithful who wish to live the gospel in their daily lives. Do you obey the bishops or do you just go on your own? In another words, do you avoid pregnancy or do you leave it in God’s hands, regardless of the number of children you already have?  Regarding the pill, there are at least 82 % of Catholics who in daily life disregard what the bishops or the Pope say, and practice birth control classified as ‘artificial’ by church’s documents. It is a growing attitude by many Catholics that they feel as adults, consequently they can take their own decisions.

It is possible to repress change temporarily — to slow change, to resist change, to deny change — but it is impossible to stop a change whose time has come. It is impossible to ignore change once it has begun to well up through the cracks in the cement of a society, however rigid the barriers to it.

Repressed, people will resist. Ignored, people will remove themselves from an arthritic society. Unheard and unheeded, blocked and obstructed, the seed of a new idea simply grows like ground pine until the ideas break out everywhere and evolution that could have been handled by a process of peaceful reform gives way to unmanageable revolution. Ask the King and Queen of France.

In France, some years ago there was the experiment of the working priest. It was a practical way in order to connect the priest with the common people. We as married priests work NOT in a parish. We have to earn our salary by conducting normal jobs like all other human beings. We have to support our families. There are no short cuts. We cannot just go to the parish and ask for money. But another important fact is that like the worker priests, we feel at odds with the Catholic church. Something which normal obeying Catholics find it difficult to understand. But when one befriends such a priest, they realise the frustrations of some of the priests in order to update the church. It’s not just one thing or one issue but many others. All could be grouped together because some priests and some bishops are living in an ivory tower and cannot feel what the common people are saying. The priest who left the comfort of the parish to go and live normally, faces real life and real challenges like all normal people. He is in a position to show the way to all who left the church and feel lonely (in a spiritual way).

We wish to announce this Christmas, a special welcome to all those who feel left out of the church for various moral or ‘sinful’ reasons. We feel that our over emphasis on sexual relationships has to end. We feel that no sin could be discriminated against. We cannot just point to one or two sins and ignore the big picture.  We are all sinful in God’s eyes. The reason God wanted his church is NOT to condemn but rather to call and welcome the sick people. If as a church we act differently, then we would be betraying His call.

In this sense we feel that married priesthood is important in the reformation of the Catholic Church because it brings the priest face to face with the normal life of today. Consequently there would be other changes. But we are hopeful, as said in one of the quoted articles, that change is inevitable. The Holy Spirit has His own way of bringing about what is classified as impossible change in the Catholic Church.

We are receiving several emails from women who love a non-married priest. On general terms we wish to give some advice. Just read this article in order to understand what’s going on.