Tag Archive: disobedience

When we were young we were submitted to various teachings. Most of the time, we read books. We tried to assimilate as much as we could. Then years passed by and somehow we re-connected to what teachers/parents/guardians had told us. Most probably what we’ve been thought was good. Yet in real life it seems that it is a different kind of fish. It’s what we call the gap between the theory and real life!

We were thought to look up to priests for friendship, counselling, ideas etc…Obviously in theory everything is in order. Yet each every human being is formed not only through teaching, but through personal experience, chemicals present in his genes etc…All this will make it highly improbable to foretell his future life as each person has a different outcome, which is based on millions of variables.

The first step is when one is asking for help. It brings the baptised person close to a priest. This is the work of the priest after all! But what happens when most of the priests feel all alone, neglected, alienated, disappointed and put aside? A normal kind of friendship (obviously there is nothing wrong), could be a tempting one for the priest. Instead of listening and comforting the person, the priest fulfils his needs for friendship, attention, love etc…within the counselling sessions. A counsellor has to listen to the client and not vice-versa, at least he can’t talk for a long period of time. The fact that the priest starts talking about his life means automatically that the sessions are taking a different path!

On the part of the person who is seeking the priest’s help, things start moving differently when they view the priest not as a counsellor but as the one who is fulfilling their dream of the ideal man! Obviously when one meets another person for a few hours weekly, it’s very easy to idolise that person! Remember that most people as viewed at work, might seem to be the ideal person. It’s when one lives with the person that one sees the complete picture! Yet, when one is hungry for love, recognition, attention and self affirmation, all other things will occupy a less important place in their lives! They just want to cling to somebody no matter what! It could be that we’re living in anonymous cities (Western part of the world), hence we desperately need friends!

We’ve been saying for quite some time now that priests who explain the word of God every Sunday (plus maybe other public meetings), are practically revealing their inner self to the general public. He is the one who speaks about a lot of values where no one speaks anymore (or at least not that often!). Speaking about such values will put more fire on a woman’s heart who is burning with desire to have a loving partner.

The priest in most cases, has all the time of the world to meet, listen and talk with parishioners. He is the one who makes his own timetable hence, he is easily available! The priest has no one to report to for his day to day running. Hence he can postpone last minute meetings without giving any real reason or hiding behind superficial reasons!

We don’t wish to give the message that it’s impossible, yet in the present circumstances, it’s getting more difficult to be a good friend to a priest. When a person is not complete (in many senses), it could lead to trouble, whether he is a priest, bishop, Pope, woman etc…In mathematics they used to teach us that a minus ( – ) with a minus ( – ), make a plus!

Our wish to have married priests will help the church to have a better system where priests are living in a relationship which will help them understand better the need for attention, love, affirmation etc…We’re not saying that it’s foolproof. There is nothing perfect. Yet on the human side of the argument, it will help them to be better prepared to work in today’s church.

Second Class Priests!

In the absence of love stories between priests and women, we are sharing our reflections regarding the latest news in the Catholic church.

In a March 2017 interview with German newspaper Die Zeit, Pope Francis used the term viri probati – in this context, religious married men of proven character – in saying he was open to the idea of a married priesthood, as is allowed for deacons, in remote areas where the priest shortage is particularly serious.

We are still not 100% sure of the outcome of married priests as we are still receiving conflicting news! Read this article

In any case it seems that all newspapers are agreeing that married priesthood is again in the news. Mulling all kind of news to look for positive news, we see some troubling ones. In the quoted statement made above, we have one single question: So are married priests just fillers? That is: are they being allowed as if they are necessary evil? Are they being allowed simply to fill in the blanks? Are we sort of second class priests who are allowed to work as priests simply because there is lack of?

Many people point to married priests because they think that will stop sexual abuse of children. People focus on sex because for news agencies it sells a lot of money! We do notice many priests who are living a solitary life. They are practically moving bodies but dead in their minds. Others who travel most of the time. Some who embrace luxuries. Others who are simply walking study books which amply shows the negative effects of forced celibacy. The list goes on and on.

Our main point of view has remained the same. Most of the apostles were married. Are we going to follow the bible or are we going against it? They do quote the bible profusely in other moral matters, yet about this one they are so silent! Why? If the apostles did it, why not the priests of today? Or are we like a supermarket: we pick up what we like in the church?!

Having married priests we hope it will bring the focus of the church on new challenges. One might be the complete overhaul of the relationship teaching (and not sex!). Strong and stable relationship calls for consequences which will help the priest to mature as he faces different challenges in life. One glaring example would be children. Taking care of your own children will bring a new insight in the life of the priest. Married priesthood will help the priest to reconnect with normal life with all its challenges. Consequently, the whole church will change. This is the revolution which we are looking forward to experience. In the end there will be winners all the way. All would feel much nearer to God. Everybody will experience the Emmanuel – God is with us! It would be interesting to visit a priest who has kids crying, eating and dirtying all the house whilst he is trying to communicate with God! It would be a good example of how to keep God in the centre of all activity!

It’s up to our readers to continue our reflection.

Why does one disobey? There could be millions of reasons. But imagine obliging somebody not to eat for a long time. Although one does not want to disobey, yet deep deep down he feels that he/she is right and he/she cannot side with this kind of law. Now this is just a silly example but there are many instances in the Catholic Church where many people feel that they are at odds with the Pope.

The Catholic church has always used the dogma and obedience to silence the people. In some parts of the world, people are afraid to go against the Catholic Church. The church itself always felt that it is an authority when it comes to religious matters. It prefers to write long, theological documents which the common people understand very little. The common man is facing life with all its challenges. One is facing various dilemmas. Although the common people are not endowed with theological reasons, yet the common sense and the experience of everyday life counteract the ignorance of theology. As we have been insisting for a very long time, God uses anybody and any circumstance to bring out his Word. The common people reach their own conclusion regarding what God wants them to do.

Fifty years ago, the Second Vatican Council inaugurated a new type of theology: starting from the common experience and finding God in the same experience. Now it seems that we are going back to square one: we start from dogma or documents and we have to make people believe it! We don’t care what the common people say. I’m fed up with clerics who always have a ready made answer to silence the people when they disagree with the Pope. It seems that they live on another planet where life is totally different. Just hearing some Sunday homilies, one understands that they keep harping on the same matters, yet the common people have other more urgent challenges to face!

What’s beautiful about the Second Vatican council is that the conscience is supreme when it comes to decision making! Yet most of the priests do not preach this value to the people in order to keep them feeling guilty. Now guilt feeling has been abused in the Catholic Church in the sense that when one goes against some teaching they feel as if they are committing a crime. Personally I know many people who agree with some practical teaching, yet they still don’t have the energy or power to cross the line. This is because in some areas the Catholic Church makes it very difficult to go against it! The case in Germany is a case in point: if one does not give money to the church, one should not expect any services from the church.…how about reading the gospel and finding where and when Jesus asked for money first, service later on?? To add insult to injury, it’s the official church which sometimes accuses people who want to go on their spiritual journey, albeit in a different path, as cafeteria Catholics where they select what pleases them from the official teaching. Just mentioning the word ‘money’ should make the Church blush…..

On a positive side more married priests come to the Catholic church! Even people who have no idea who the Catholic Church is, yet they see this action as a possible big change in the future! It is preparing people to accept married priests. Obviously the church would have a problem with money because they need to financially support a married man, possibly with children and a wife, and that could be the real challenge from the point of view of the church.