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When we were young we were submitted to various teachings. Most of the time, we read books. We tried to assimilate as much as we could. Then years passed by and somehow we re-connected to what teachers/parents/guardians had told us. Most probably what we’ve been thought was good. Yet in real life it seems that it is a different kind of fish. It’s what we call the gap between the theory and real life!

We were thought to look up to priests for friendship, counselling, ideas etc…Obviously in theory everything is in order. Yet each every human being is formed not only through teaching, but through personal experience, chemicals present in his genes etc…All this will make it highly improbable to foretell his future life as each person has a different outcome, which is based on millions of variables.

The first step is when one is asking for help. It brings the baptised person close to a priest. This is the work of the priest after all! But what happens when most of the priests feel all alone, neglected, alienated, disappointed and put aside? A normal kind of friendship (obviously there is nothing wrong), could be a tempting one for the priest. Instead of listening and comforting the person, the priest fulfils his needs for friendship, attention, love etc…within the counselling sessions. A counsellor has to listen to the client and not vice-versa, at least he can’t talk for a long period of time. The fact that the priest starts talking about his life means automatically that the sessions are taking a different path!

On the part of the person who is seeking the priest’s help, things start moving differently when they view the priest not as a counsellor but as the one who is fulfilling their dream of the ideal man! Obviously when one meets another person for a few hours weekly, it’s very easy to idolise that person! Remember that most people as viewed at work, might seem to be the ideal person. It’s when one lives with the person that one sees the complete picture! Yet, when one is hungry for love, recognition, attention and self affirmation, all other things will occupy a less important place in their lives! They just want to cling to somebody no matter what! It could be that we’re living in anonymous cities (Western part of the world), hence we desperately need friends!

We’ve been saying for quite some time now that priests who explain the word of God every Sunday (plus maybe other public meetings), are practically revealing their inner self to the general public. He is the one who speaks about a lot of values where no one speaks anymore (or at least not that often!). Speaking about such values will put more fire on a woman’s heart who is burning with desire to have a loving partner.

The priest in most cases, has all the time of the world to meet, listen and talk with parishioners. He is the one who makes his own timetable hence, he is easily available! The priest has no one to report to for his day to day running. Hence he can postpone last minute meetings without giving any real reason or hiding behind superficial reasons!

We don’t wish to give the message that it’s impossible, yet in the present circumstances, it’s getting more difficult to be a good friend to a priest. When a person is not complete (in many senses), it could lead to trouble, whether he is a priest, bishop, Pope, woman etc…In mathematics they used to teach us that a minus ( – ) with a minus ( – ), make a plus!

Our wish to have married priests will help the church to have a better system where priests are living in a relationship which will help them understand better the need for attention, love, affirmation etc…We’re not saying that it’s foolproof. There is nothing perfect. Yet on the human side of the argument, it will help them to be better prepared to work in today’s church.

Second Class Priests!

In the absence of love stories between priests and women, we are sharing our reflections regarding the latest news in the Catholic church.

In a March 2017 interview with German newspaper Die Zeit, Pope Francis used the term viri probati – in this context, religious married men of proven character – in saying he was open to the idea of a married priesthood, as is allowed for deacons, in remote areas where the priest shortage is particularly serious.

We are still not 100% sure of the outcome of married priests as we are still receiving conflicting news! Read this article

In any case it seems that all newspapers are agreeing that married priesthood is again in the news. Mulling all kind of news to look for positive news, we see some troubling ones. In the quoted statement made above, we have one single question: So are married priests just fillers? That is: are they being allowed as if they are necessary evil? Are they being allowed simply to fill in the blanks? Are we sort of second class priests who are allowed to work as priests simply because there is lack of?

Many people point to married priests because they think that will stop sexual abuse of children. People focus on sex because for news agencies it sells a lot of money! We do notice many priests who are living a solitary life. They are practically moving bodies but dead in their minds. Others who travel most of the time. Some who embrace luxuries. Others who are simply walking study books which amply shows the negative effects of forced celibacy. The list goes on and on.

Our main point of view has remained the same. Most of the apostles were married. Are we going to follow the bible or are we going against it? They do quote the bible profusely in other moral matters, yet about this one they are so silent! Why? If the apostles did it, why not the priests of today? Or are we like a supermarket: we pick up what we like in the church?!

Having married priests we hope it will bring the focus of the church on new challenges. One might be the complete overhaul of the relationship teaching (and not sex!). Strong and stable relationship calls for consequences which will help the priest to mature as he faces different challenges in life. One glaring example would be children. Taking care of your own children will bring a new insight in the life of the priest. Married priesthood will help the priest to reconnect with normal life with all its challenges. Consequently, the whole church will change. This is the revolution which we are looking forward to experience. In the end there will be winners all the way. All would feel much nearer to God. Everybody will experience the Emmanuel – God is with us! It would be interesting to visit a priest who has kids crying, eating and dirtying all the house whilst he is trying to communicate with God! It would be a good example of how to keep God in the centre of all activity!

It’s up to our readers to continue our reflection.

How far will Pope Francis go ?

The Catholic Church is not just any other organisation! Whilst many other business enterprises, organisations etc….. try very hard to sell their products to today’s people, the Catholic Church does not use the same methods. For many centuries it has had the conviction of holding the truth and it does not feel the need to discuss or listen to others. It doesn’t measure people’s minds in order to satisfy their needs or requests.

There was a breakthrough in this method during the Second Vatican Council (meeting for all Catholic bishops – 1962-1965), where the church started to listen to people. Alas the last Popes practically reversed the improvements or updates provided by this council and repeated the same methodology provided before the council. Now with Pope Francis it seems that he wants to listen. Will he be successful? Well we can’t read the future but we know that most of the people who are still attending the church are mostly conservative (they want to conserve everything as it was taught so many years ago). Other people have walked forward. They wish to see the old teachings in a new light. The problem is that most of the people who are forward looking have long abandoned the church. How can one reach out to these people?

We know from experience that most of the people in the western world are happy living their own private life. They are happy as they are. We’ve been helping people in order to get involved with the church. Notwithstanding that there many things which puts one away, one needs to stay ‘in’ and try to bring a change. Now this is the most difficult part as many people were hurt in one way or another and they can’t accept the fact to go back to where suffering took place.

That’s why the married priest movement became so popular because it accepted people who were living in the periphery of the church. They listened to people and adapted the teaching according to the wishes of the people of God. This is not changing religion. Our religion is to be lived by people and it’s not just a book to be followed blindly. This is not our teaching but the teaching of the Second Vatican Council and of the early church. The bible was written by the first communities who first lived Jesus’ message. Now this message is being lived by the christian communities of today. If we let the common people speak up ie those attending the christian communities of today, they will show us the way forward. The voice of the communities is very loud. It reaches far away. It is astounding. It breaks walls.

The married priest is acting as a bridge between the lost sheep and the official church. Let’s support our married priests who are living the change in our religion. The change is not just a change for the sake of change but rather to put people near God. The people living outside the church have changed. We cannot ignore this fact. We cannot isolate ourselves by saying we have the word of God. God is not to be imprisoned in a book. He speaks through non-believers and other people. If people have changed, then He is saying something to us. It’s our duty to hear his message.

The church is not simply the Pope but rather the whole community. Let’s prepare the way for a change in religion by living the change ourselves. Let’s not delegate our duties to other people (eg Pope or priests). The Pope might see God’s hands through the communities of today and act accordingly.

Following there are some articles which could be interesting for some people:

 Why priests should marry

The poor in the western world

It’s very hard to go back for the church